Casual Sex & God's Forgiveness

Last week I talked about the state of casual sex. I’m going to continue the dialogue and speak about our future relationship with God if we are not married and sexually active.

If you have been, or are sexually active, in your quiet time with God tell him how you feel—he already knows. We call it confession. Hebrews 10:22 says: “Let us go right into the presence of God with sincere hearts fully trusting him. For our guilty consciences have been sprinkled with Christ’s blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water.” Ask for his forgiveness and his help and guidance.

God loves you so much. He will forgive you and heal you. Once he forgives you—you are clean and pure in his eyes. Psalm 51:7 says: God swill wash us whiter than snow.
But it doesn’t mean he will wipe out the consequences. One example is King David. He
committed adultery which led to murder and set into motion consequences that were irreversible.

David asked God to forgive him. God forgave David’s sin and restored their relationship, but he did not wipe out the consequences. That’s part of life! We must never take on the attitude that, “I can do this—get drunk, try marijuana, have premarital sex—because if I tell God I’m sorry, he’ll forgive me.” If we choose to live this way we must remember that we may set into motion events with irreversible consequences. God will forgive you but you may get a DUI charge and jail time, a pregnancy or STD, the loss of a college scholarship, loss of good friends. That happened to me. I know!

The clincher is, despite what David did, God still used David. Despite what I did—God is using me today in a powerful way. In fact, David was found to be worthy enough in God’s eyes to generate from his seed Jesus Christ. We will all, at one time or other, fall into temptation because we are human beings with a sin nature. Everyone, including Mom and Dad and Pastors and youth leaders blows it. With God, forgiveness means more than a second chance; it means a fresh start. It’s like getting an F on a test and the F gets erased as if it never happened. COOL!

We don’t have to be embarrassed or be afraid of what God thinks about us. We are fully forgiven and totally loved by him—no matter what we have done! But he expects us to follow his commands to keep us healthy and safe. The psalmist asked God: “How can a young man [woman] keep his [her] way pure? Answer: By living according to your word” (Psalms 119:9). This is the key: the only way we can know what God wants from us and what is healthy and safe and good for us is by learning and following God’s Word—doing bible study.

God wants us to be sexually pure way we do that is by maintaining our virginity.
If you are not a virgin you can still make a commitment to God to remain pure until you get married. He will honor that commitment.